Comments on: Whats Your Deal Breaker?

By: Julliet

Julliet — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 02:22:19 +0000

Ok, this is my deal, I’m with a guy, he is 46, we been together 4 years, he has borrowed money off me, he wasnt paying me back, so i told him he had too but the worst part, I set the AP up. I let him borrow another two times, it was large amounts( I know, I’m not dumb, just in Love) so now after almost 3 1/2 years its finally all paid back. After our trip to Europe soon, he said we should get a rental place together… Guess he thought I could be his financial back up. Hold your horses i said, not this time…. He lives in my freehold house but pays rent & utilities, life aint free…. He ran outta work 3 times & I paid everything in that time & supported MY two kids as well. when I was ,made redundant twice last year, he did not help out, not even once….I asked him once why do you ask me for money, he said cause I made it easy for him… Now he get zip, nada, nothing… & he alsways has nothing… so financial security wasnt really important to me, but after meeting him, it sure it….
Will our relationship last, No, after this holiday I am on my own, would have done it sooner but have paid for my ticket…. and yes i am no longer in Love with him

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By: Melissa

Melissa — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 14:46:37 +0000

I think a big deal breaker for me would not necessarily be past poor decisions, but a complacency about it. If someone got themselves into a bad spot, but was working to get out of it, that’d be cool, but I don’t know if I could handle being with someone with a bunch of credit card debt and no financial literacy who just thought, “Meh, it’ll work itself out.” I’d go vtazy.

By: Buck Inspire

Buck Inspire — Tue, 24 Apr 2012 07:45:22 +0000

Entertaining story from this end! Probably not too fun for you. Not a deal breaker, but if you suggested to him to give up his $10/month payment plan and he didn’t, is this a deal breaker?

By: Young Professional Finances

Young Professional Finances — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 17:04:34 +0000

I would definitely freak out. I remember when I found out that my boyfriend had a ton of credit card debt – I definitely freaked out and then looked into options for him. Since he was willing to fix it, it wasn’t a deal breaker for me, especially since we aren’t married yet (so his money is still his money, in my eyes). If he wasn’t willing to change then that would definitely be a deal breaker for me.

By: Below Her Means

Below Her Means — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 05:18:29 +0000

Lies are my deal breaker. I feel that anything can be handled with honesty.

By: MaryAnne @ Parenting and Money

MaryAnne @ Parenting and Money — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 20:17:23 +0000

Ok, in your boyfriend’s defense, maybe the $1800 balance was under a special offer? Credit card companies do offer no interest terms if the full balance is paid in full by a certain amount of time granted the minimum payment is made each month. If that wasn’t the case, then he definitely needs to be enlightened.

By: Lorillia | Your Money Mentor

Lorillia | Your Money Mentor — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 19:18:01 +0000

Be easy on him, your approach with explaining to him how credit card interest accumulates is a good idea. Keep us posted on his progress with paying off the cards, since he is a saver. Have him to just PAYITOFF.

By: SB @ One Cent At A Time

SB @ One Cent At A Time — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 14:25:23 +0000

Take it easy and just think he is one in 70% credit card users who don’t know how to use the card.

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