{"id":4703,"date":"2013-11-06T00:01:57","date_gmt":"2013-11-06T08:01:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/add-vodka.com\/?p=4703"},"modified":"2015-05-28T20:08:22","modified_gmt":"2015-05-29T03:08:22","slug":"kids-timing-and-money","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/add-vodka.com\/kids-timing-and-money\/","title":{"rendered":"Kids, Timing, and Money"},"content":{"rendered":"

As J and I plan our wedding,<\/a>\u00a0we have noticed and influx of questions about children. At least a handful of my coworkers have asked about the timing of kids\u00a0after our wedding, and my family has always been curious to know whether or not we’ve thought about children and when we will have them.<\/p>\n

This is something that, as an attached, settled couple in their mid and late twenties, comes up a lot.<\/p>\n

Neither J nor I have ever been the type of people that didn’t<\/em> want kids. We have always known that we wanted children<\/strong>. Even when I was single, I knew I wanted kids. Many of my single friends have said that they didn’t want kids, and then changed their minds when they met their partners, but never I.<\/p>\n

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I’m not so sure I’ll ever be ready for this!<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I Used to Think I Wanted to be a Young(er) Mother<\/h3>\n

When I was in my early 20s, I always pictured myself having my first baby when I was in my mid to late twenties. I didn’t want to be 35 and having my first child.<\/p>\n

My friend and I recently had our tarot cards read, and my cards indicated that I wouldn’t have my first child until 2019. I’ll be 30 by then.<\/p>\n

While 30 is not<\/em>\u00a0too old, and it’s most certainly not unusual to have children at that age in my generation, I don’t love the thought of starting\u00a0<\/em>at 30.<\/p>\n

Now, this isn’t a fertility thing for me.<\/em> The whole infertile-after-32 notion that is being shoved down women’s throats is bogus for most women.\u00a0Some of the women in my family would not have been able to have children after ~28 years of age, because of an interesting biological challenge that they have had, and while my mom has always been concerned about that for me, I’m not too concerned about it. I am more than okay with adopting if, biologically, it doesn’t work out (or even perhaps if it does).<\/p>\n

I want to be able to have more than one or two kids (I have always pictured myself with at least three) and energy, patience, and timeliness (wanting to be able to retire early without children in the house) are all factors when you have children at an older age. J is three years older than me, meaning if we started having kids when I am 30, he will be 33. If we have three kids, spaced ~2 years apart, (assuming that they all move out at 18), the last kid will be out of the house just in time for his early retirement.<\/p>\n

We Are Enjoying Being DINKS<\/h3>\n

I have to say that although I did envision myself having at least my first child before thirty, we are really enjoying being a “dual income no kids” couple.<\/p>\n

Together, we make about $135,000\/year, and while in Canada this isn’t as much as it would seem in the States (we’re taxed at a higher rate, and our housing costs are generally a lot more), it still gives us a nice cushion at the end of each month to save, invest, and spend.<\/p>\n

We aren’t able to save at the rate we would like to. Over the past few years, we were saving up for a down payment on our home. Then, we were paying off my car. Now, we’re saving for a wedding. After we pay for the wedding, we’ll be saving for a vehicle for J.<\/p>\n

If we threw kids into the mix any time soon, we wouldn’t be able to meet our financial goals. Furthermore, we wouldn’t be able to meet our goals for them.<\/p>\n

Enjoying Each Other, Getting to Know Ourselves<\/h3>\n

We’re getting married in 2014, and we want to be able to enjoy being newlyweds for a couple of years. Building a strong marriage foundation is key for success in both marriage and child rearing.<\/p>\n

I have read quite a few studies that show that people go through periods of great change in their mid twenties – more so than any other time period in life. I want to be sure that I know myself really well before I have to focus on somebody else. I’m pretty self aware, but I’m not going to pretend that I know all of my strengths and weaknesses just yet.<\/p>\n

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We want children; this isn’t going to change. Every year that goes by makes me want to prolong life without them for a little longer.<\/p>\n

Ideally, we’ll time our children for a few years after we get married, after we’ve seen some more of the world and have amassed a comfortable net worth. We’ll see if it works out that way, though.<\/p>\n

How about you? If you have kids, do you think they came at the right time in your life? If you don’t (but want them), when would be ideal for you to have them?<\/p>\n

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