Comments on: Full Money Disclosure in a Relationship

By: blindandnumb

blindandnumb — Mon, 01 Aug 2011 14:18:57 +0000

I’ve been in a relationship where I knew what my partner made and we kept our money together-shared-100%. “Whats mine is yours and yours is mine” kind of attitude. Then I had a more ‘Evolved’ relationship as I liked to think of it. I had my money, he had his, and we split bills. He didn’t know what I made, I didnt know what he made. Oh yes, we were evolved alright… and we evolved into a pile of shit because there was resentment. There were things he wanted to go do that I couldn’t afford but he didn’t know it because we didn’t talk about it. Weird.

By: Link Love | fabulously fru-girl

Link Love | fabulously fru-girl — Mon, 01 Aug 2011 14:16:33 +0000

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By: Where's Mom's Money?

Where's Mom's Money? — Sun, 31 Jul 2011 12:46:22 +0000

Thanks for commenting on my blog!! I had to come over and comment on this post because it totally blows me away that people in long-term committed relationships wouldn’t discuss this! I wonder if these are couples where there is only one person working and the other is a stay-at-home mom/dad who just figures they never need to know as long as things are taken care of. Crazy pants!

My husband and I have our own checking accounts (although we do have a few joint accounts for savings, etc.) but nothing is secret. I have his bank password and he has mine. I remember having the “how much do you make” conversation about a year into our relationship when we were thinking about moving in together for the first time as BF and GF.

By: addvodka

addvodka — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 14:52:25 +0000

In reply to Laura. I guess that's true. I just can't wrap my head around how that would work for anyone, particularly people who are married or that are planning on ever having kids or having a house together.

By: addvodka

addvodka — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 14:51:48 +0000

In reply to MommaStar. Haha you are the family CFO!

By: addvodka

addvodka — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 14:51:24 +0000

In reply to Matt. Thanks Matt!

By: addvodka

addvodka — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 13:21:12 +0000

In reply to LC. I know! This totally blew me away. I couldn't be comfortable with boyfriend if I didnt know what he made, and vice versa.

By: LC

LC — Wed, 27 Jul 2011 04:02:22 +0000

I’m single now but exes and I have always shared the truth about our finances. If you’re in a situation where you’re both contributing to the same causes (aka rent, food, bills, or saving for something together) it doesn’t make sense why you wouldn’t share the details of your finances.

By: Matt

Matt — Wed, 27 Jul 2011 01:50:02 +0000

Stopping by to say great post and I love the new look.

By: MommaStar

MommaStar — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 19:51:14 +0000

If I didn’t know how much my spouse made it would drive me bananas. I’m the nerd in the family which sometimes is a problem too but that story is for another day. On husband’s payday I do the deposits, withdraws, budgeting, dispersing of funds and etc. It works perfectly fine for us that way. He knows how much I make as well but I don’t think it really matters to him if he knew or didn’t. I’m trying to include him more in the financial process for the just in case moments in life but it’s taking a little longer then expected for him to fully understand. To him as long as everything is going ok and he gets a little spending money then everything is fine and dandy.