The first date is like an exam, but you won’t have a chance to resit it. You look at the examiner – beautiful, nice, and sexy – and make more and more mistakes.
Most people can (at least subconsciously) decode the body language pretty well. Your body can give you away and spoil your first date. You should be aware of those wrong movements and gestures, which can ruin your romance from the start, and take them under your total control. Here few dating tips by Ukraine Dating site.
- Don’t fold your arms.
Crossed arms signal that you’re defending yourself or trying to create a barrier between you and your date. Don’t sit like that even if you feel comfortable – your interlocutor may feel alienated. - Point your feet in the right direction.
Mind the direction of you feet. They should be towards your partner. This way, you show her that you’re interested. If a pretty blonde at the next table catches your eye, make sure you don’t turn your feet towards her. - Don’t fuss.
Sharp moves and fast speech show that you are too nervous, excited or interested in her. All you need to do is to relax and enjoy your date. Drink some water or go to the restroom to pull yourself together and get back confident and calm. - Mirror your partner.
People who are into each other often subconsciously mimic each other’s gestures, voice intonation or manner of speaking. Mirroring is the sign of equality and the way to express that you agree with her point of view and feel drawn to her. - Avoid touching.
Don’t touch her even if you want to. This is your first date and you may feel at some moment that you may touch her. You’re mistaken. Don’t take her amiability for her desire to become closer. Any bold touch may be interpreted by her as harassment and you’re first date will turn into your last. - Don’t nod too much.
If she’s telling you a long-long story you shouldn’t nod at every word she says. That’s a sign that you’re bored. If you really are, control your body, otherwise she may think that you’re not listening to her or want her to finish your speech. Make sure that you nod occasionally to agree with her interesting ideas. - Don’t fiddle with things.
Trifling with a napkin or tablecloth is an indication of your nervousness, disinterest, or lack of confidence. Any bustle will make your date feel uncomfortable so keep still and show that you’re really interested. - Keep the distance.
Don’t enter her personal space (60-120 cm distance between the interlocutors) as most people feel discomfort when this zone is encroached. Only close friends, lovers, and family members are allowed to an intimate zone (60 cm and less). Of course, you want to close the distance between you, but the first date (especially its beginning) is a way too early to do that. Don’t rush things, be patient and you’ll get into her intimate zone very soon. - Be well mannered.
Remember that you’re a gentleman so mind your table manners and standard etiquette rules. - Control your eye contact.
According to the scientists, people spend 30-60% of the ordinary conversation time looking at each other. Lovers look at each other for about 75% of the time. Choose a happy medium and everything will be cool. You shouldn’t constantly stare at her without even blinking as she may feel creepy under your steady gaze. Also, make sure that you maintain an eye contact not less than 50% of your date time, otherwise she may think you aren’t interested in her. - Show your genuine interest.
It’s your date, after all, so don’t look around and try to focus on your girl. She should understand that you’re interested in her and that you asked her out to get to know her better, not to ignore her. - Embrace her.
Whether to kiss a girl at the end of the first date is always an open question. However, you’ll do no harm hugging her tenderly. It will show her that you like her and just want to touch. Note that patting her on her back isn’t acceptable; it’s OK only with your male friends. Patting will be perceived by her as your unwillingness to contact her and she may feel weird.
